Sometimes you just have to strip things back to the essentials, forget about what you want and focus on what you need. Sometimes you realise that what you hope for does you more damage in the long run. Sometimes you realise that you give up yourself to make others happy, you accept their rudeness as an indication of your value. You have to find what grounds you, a place you feel safe, a place where you can be calm, shut yourself off in a corner with a WiFi connection and allow yourself to reconnect with yourself.
It’s sitting in places that you feel comfortable in that you can take notice of yourself, re-evaluate your goals, get away from the stresses and troubles of your day – you can focus on being busy doing nothing as opposed to doing nothing whilst being busy. It’s about making time for yourself and realising that how others treat you is a reflection on them and not on you. It’s about making time for yourself and realising that you don’t have to accept rudeness or manipulation in your life, you can choose to have it in your life or you can choose not too.
In business and life it is easy to forget this, thinking you have to accept people’s poor attitude towards you because they are a customers, partner, client or are influential. In your personal life it is easy to forget this, thinking you have to accept people’s poor attitude towards you because they are family, the mother of your children, or important friends. I realised how lucky I was yesterday to have a couple of good friends who do have empathy, who do care and who won’t tell you what to do, won’t force you to live in pain, but will support you through the good times and the bad. I am very, very lucky to have friends like this!
This little message is my way of thanking them for being nearby when I needed them. This is my little message to everyone who may be going through their own stresses, trials or tribulations at the moment. You are not alone. You realise that time isn’t the great healer that everyone professes it is, it’s what you do with that time, most importantly the connections you make, the people you impact positively and the people who impact positively on you.
There is always a flip side to every dark moment – you realise how strong you are when you come out the other side. You realise the people who truly value you for who you are, show you respect and like your individuality and quirks – you realise the people who don’t as well. But most of all, you realise who is still standing up for you, cheering you on, encouraging you, supporting you, helping you even when they have their own stresses and troubles.
To those people I thank you. – with Dave and Angela at Kaffe o
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